My newest book:
Couples therapy for one

Improve Your Relationship by Changing Yourself

Couples therapy for one shows how relationship problems arise, and above all, how you can solve them. The most remarkable thing is that you, yourself, have enormous influence over this! Once it’s clear how strongly your past affects you, it’s possible to look more objectively at your own role in your relationship. And, if you are willing to take full responsibility for your own part, your relationship will improve immediately.
This positive and personal book offers the perspective that it really is possible to deal with relationship problems more effectively, even if they have been going on for a long time. Reading the book will give you the insights and tools necessary to do this.

Why did I write this book?

I wrote this book for women who feel now the way I felt back then: sad, frustrated, lonely in their relationship, exhausted from trying to make it work, and close to giving up. A book like this didn’t exist then, or at least I couldn’t find it.

Instead, it took me many years to understand what was really happening beneath all the struggle, pain, and blame, and to start making different choices. That led to a completely unexpected but deeply positive shift in our relationship. We’ve now been together for twenty-six years and are happier than ever.
If you’ve been struggling in your relationship for some time, I sincerely hope this book helps you see yourself, your partner, and your dynamic with more gentleness, clarity, and awareness. And I hope it reminds you that no matter how dark or hopeless things may feel right now, change is possible.

I also wrote this book for anyone who wants to deepen or improve their relationships in general. Whether with your partner, parents, children, friends, or coworkers, the insights in this book can be applied to all your relationships.

What makes my book and therapy, different from everything else there already is?

My book and therapy focus on understanding what’s really happening beneath relationship problems and within your own perspective on the relationship. I combine personal experience, psychology, attachment styles, the nervous system, relationship dynamics, and the differences between men and women in an accessible, human, and authentic way. The essence is shifting your focus from blame to where your influence actually lies. That’s often where real change in relationships begins.

More information about this book

For more information send an email to info@relatietherapieinjeeentje.nl.
Literary agent: Marianne Schönbach Literary Agency.
The book has not yet been translated, but there will be an English sample translation available soon.